Self-love,Strong-like & Real love

Self-love

In most cases the hardest and most intense of them all is self-love. Rather it be from prior heartbreaks that have taken a toll on self, comparison of others, or misinterpretation of beauty in the modern cryptic world... taking the steps to truly get to know yourself and learning to love thyself, unconditionally seems few and far between these days.

I believe it is very prevalent or more noticeable in this day/age due to social media and the sense of “sharing” every part of ones life with others. Most people tend to be subliminal in their actions or words; however in most cases they are seeking help or love from others in order to compensate for the love they lack for self.. these types of situations can be dangerous and/or very helpful depending on the source you obtain your strength from. Hurt people, hurt people and good energy, self-less, loved filled individuals usually draw from a positive place and are able to be a healthy source—we all need atleast one of these individuals in our arsenal.

Although it is very important to have positive vibes sourced from outside while taking the steps to find self-love.. I believe it is more important to be able to be comfortable enough in solidarity. You will ALWAYS spend thee most time with self.. and friends, family, or associates will not always be available when needed. Finding peace within is key in this process... and this step is always different for everyone; however it should be known that everyone will experience some discomfort, which in this case is a beautiful thing. There is no true growth without discomfort in my opinion.. and you have to be willing to take some leaps of faith and/or do certain things you normally would not think of doing. (This step is very profound within the process) I.E. taking yourself on a date, sign up for an activity, read, solo travel, etc..

Spending time alone seems pretty simple in hindsight; however this step may be the hardest for some...You are unable to escape the issues you have been tucking away for so long. However, in the long run fighting these demons will be very sacred to you. This level of discomfort will likely be very difficult .. Please get down and dirty with it and don’t let up until you feel you have faced all your darkness and are able to face the world and more importantly face yourself. Once you feel you have laid down all of your burdens and conquered them, you will feel a weight lifted, empowered, strong.. and nothing or no one will be able to touch you!

A lot of people who have taken these steps are often seen as cocky or conceited.. which in some cases may be true lol; however those who have attained love for self move differently and exude confidence because they have gained knowledge of self and nothing or no one will ever be able to block their path for growth nor do they need to seek assurance from others in order to be filled with happiness or peace .. it comes from within.

Strong-like

With that being said.. please don’t misinterpret self-love for not wanting/needing love from others; however see it as a muse or a template for how you require to receive love from others.

Before a loving relationship is created, “strong-like” is often established via our feelings to/for a mate. In this stage of a relationship you will see clear signs of the things you are/aren’t willing to deal with in the long run. The things you aren’t willing to deal with are normally seen as “red flags”.. in most cases these things are ignored or overshadowed by the “honeymoon” swooning your mate has cast upon you.

• These moments are critical for the strong and weak alike. If you have truly gone through your healing process and gained a true sense of self/self-love this moment/moments will be clear to spot and you will most likely cut off the situation without hesitation because you are aware of your worth. However, those of us that have not fully established a true sense of self, in most instances, will ignore these signs and see them as things that can potentially be fixed or force ourselves to believe we would be able to deal with. As hard as it may be.. don’t fall into this trap.

Remember I mentioned “hurt people, hurt people”... these are those “people.” Without sounding too crazy or outlandish.. these individuals usually come disguised or masked as caring, loving and “real”. Excuse my French, but do your best to filter through their bullshit. As soon as you feel/see any inconsistency in a person’s actions in relation to the words they have fed you.. this is usually that “critical” moment and you have a choice to flee the scene or go back on your own words you have fed and promised yourself. Choose wisely. Of course you’re always able to go back into the steps of self-healing at any in point in life; however cutting the bullshit on sight will save you a great deal of hurt down the line. Trust me.

Real love

In most people’s lifetimes, unfortunately, they are not able to feel the true sense of love. This goes back to the “strong-like” step in a relationship.. most people settle, conform, or simply ignore the “red flags” and become comfortable in discomfort or chaos. Don’t become this person..

Take the necessary steps to seek self love first.. never negotiate the price of your worth, set that margin high and do not bend/break for any quick thrills.. and lastly be open to share your abundance of love to those who are aligned on your path of happiness/peace.

My belief is that real love will be easy to pinpoint and hard to ignore. Once you have cut through all the “red tape” or “honeymoon” stage of a relationship and the individual has remained consistent throughout and is still able to give you an unexplainable deep down feeling.. that’s it. As I mentioned earlier, those who are bad for you will most likely come disguised as real love with all of these feels, however it is vital that you are able to determine the difference between the two. You will never have to second guess the real thing, it’s tailor made just for you!

This was a little out of my comfort zone and different from my usual post.. however I promised you all some lifestyle post here and there. And it’s always good to mix it up, right!?

Anyway, I hope this post was able to reach atleast 1 person. I am NO love or life expert.. however everything I spoke to is from my own experiences and/or my own thoughts.

Feel free to contact me, via the ‘Contact’ tab or on my social media if you would like to speak on the subject more or just voice your opinion. I love hearing from all of you.

• Love Justice.